My Mom’s Battle

12thJul. × ’10

My Mom's Battle

This is my mom and she’s one of the greatest human beings I know.  It’s hard to write about people you love because there so many things you want to cover from the bad times and the good times that happen between you and them. Lately, it’s been even harder.
My mom was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin lymphoma cancer back in May. For the past two months, she’s been receiving radiation treatments for her cancer. However, since the beginning of this month, my mom’s cancer turned out to be more aggressive than we thought. Her doctor is now moving her into chemotherapy.
I’ve been private about it until at that point, I decided to pick up my camera not planning or caring whether they’ll be good or bad. I’ve seen a few photographers that have documented family sickness. It’s seemed as a outlet for them. For me, it’s something I can’t fathom in wordsThis is my mom and she’s one of the greatest human beings I know.  It’s hard to write about people you love because there so many things you want to cover from the bad times and the good times that happen between you and them. Lately, it’s been even harder.

This is my mom and she’s one of the greatest human beings I know.  It’s hard to write about people you love because there so many things you want to cover from the bad times and the good times that happen between you and them. Lately, it’s been even harder.

My mom was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin lymphoma cancer back in May. For the past two months, she’s been receiving radiation treatments for her cancer. However, since the beginning of this month, my mom’s cancer turned out to be more aggressive than we thought. Her doctor is now moving her into chemotherapy.

I’ve been private about it until this point, I decided to pick up my camera not planning or caring whether they’ll be good or bad. I’ve seen a few photographers that have documented family sickness. It’s seemed as a outlet for them. For me, it’s something I can’t fathom in words.

My Mom's Battle

My parents and my aunt from Paris, France came to visit me this past weekend. I took them around town getting Dim Sum and showed my aunt where I worked and lived. I was happy that my mom was getting out because I bet she’s been bored sitting around the house. She brought her medical papers for me to read because she doesn’t quite understand English. We talked about things she may encounter during her chemotherapy, which she’s still scared of. I asked if I can take her photo and she covered her neck not wanting me to get her scar.

My Mom's Battle

I finally convinced her, telling her that it’s just a mark to remind us of the battles we are fighting or fought in our lives and how we come to overcome / deal with them.

The scar is how they found the cancer. She had a large throat cyst that had to be surgically removed. Once it was removed, the doctor did some test on it and found cells that was cancerous. Then it started from there.

My Mom's Battle
My mom showed me the drugs she’s currently taking to help ease her situation. She’s also receiving charm/blessings bracelets from monks and other people to help do away with the cancer.
My Mom's Battle
It’s been hard on all of us, but I can’t imagine what it’s like for my dad. He’s been on work disability for the last two years and now my mom is not working. However, he’s not the person to dwell on it. He escaped Laos’s political prison dodging bullets, sneaking and swimming across the border to Thailand. There, he met my mom at a refugee camp. My parents came to this country with just a grocery bag of clothes. Today, he waits like me and my little brother, Lexus, for any news on my mom’s situation. I’m happy that he’s with her and being there for her, especially for 26 years.
My Mom's Battle
My mom thinks a lot about her cancer. She calls me quite often and we talk about it. It’s hard for us because we been through a lot with our family, but like my friends tell me, you just got to stay strong and keep your spirits high. It’s also helps that my aunt from Paris came to help us. She’s a retired nurse who also left Laos during the regime change. She’s great and she’s done for so much for my family I can’t imagine how to repay her back (She also went to Laos to see me become a monk). She was excited to see Atlanta and REALLY excited when I showed her the real torches from the Olympic games at work. She’s a fan. She on the right getting a picture of the Buckhead skyline from my dad.
My Mom's Battle
Sometimes we tend to dwell on how things will affect us negative wise but like ying and yang there are positives. It’s the moments that we joke around with each other. The moments where you go home and see the biggest smile on their face just because they’re happy to see you. Lately my mom has been eating better and spending more time with us than she has, especially with my aunt. She even has a small garden that her and my dad made together. It’s also great reaching out to people who battled it and shared their experiences. It’s teaching/helping me a lot about life. We don’t know how it’s going to turn out. All we wish, is for our friend, cousin, sister, wife, and mom to get better…
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3 Comments

  1. Posted July 12, 2010 at 7:01 pm | Permalink

    That’s heavy bro. My wishes are with you and your family.

  2. matt
    Posted July 12, 2010 at 8:04 pm | Permalink

    J–Thank you for sharing something so personal. Your Mom is lucky to have you as her son.

  3. Rosalynn
    Posted August 6, 2010 at 8:45 pm | Permalink

    Sorry to hear about your mom. The pictures are incredible.

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